Toxic manipulators are without a doubt the most self-centered people you are ever likely to meet. They only serve their own interests, and will employ exploitative, devious, deceptive, and abusive methods to control and manipulate you. One thing you need to realize is that manipulators are intelligent and crafty, even though they employ malicious methods. To manipulate someone, you need a complex and deliberate thought process, which can only be done successfully by someone that uses human psychology cleverly and advantageously.
Psychological manipulation is targeted at changing the perception or behavior of a person through underhanded, deceptive, or abusive tactics. It is important that you recognize the signs someone is trying to psychologically control and manipulate you. Here are some of them:
1. They want to ‘Hear your Story’ first
One of the most common tactics manipulators use is, wanting to hear your story first. You may think it is considerate of them, but they are attempting to evaluate any weaknesses or strengths you have. They will use this information later, and it is likely they will use this tactic regularly. It is a tactic used by salesmen, as they use prospecting to understand your behavior and thinking. The good news is that you can turn the tables on them by refusing to engage in their conversations.
2. They attempt to confuse with ‘Information Overload’
Smart manipulators and textbook narcissists will try to confuse you by throwing all kinds of facts at you, which you don’t have any idea about. The information overload is going to overwhelm you, which is something that happens in business-related discussions and sales. Manipulators use this tactic to establish credibility by showcasing their exceptional knowledge, to control the situation and the person. It is best to walk away, or use your best judgement in such a situation.
3. They exude negative emotions
When trying to manipulate their target, some manipulators may not control their voice, and can become loud as they lose control. They engage in this behavior, because they want someone to conform to them and accept that they are right. If you find yourself in such a situation, you should either say, ‘no’ to any demands they make or walk away.
4. They try to make you insecure
People with low self-esteem and insecurity are a great target for manipulators since they see these people as weak. It allows them to deceive and lie to these people in different ways to ensure that these people feel inferior and insecure around them. They may use sarcasm or negative humor to poke fun at this person’s personal life, work habits, and appearance. The best way to deal with them is to ignore them, and walk away from them.
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